Being A Great Leader

As I sipped on my tea at a mentoring session last week, a long term colleague and friend posed a question:

 "How Can I Be A Great Leader?!"

I gave the question some more thought - with six words he had really got my mind racing! I finally responded: "Leadership isn't about being great. It's about enabling others to be great."

I've since had the opportunity to reflect on this. What did I mean? How do you enable people to be great, and create 'great teams'?

I've sought to break this down to what I believe are 6 key points, however one of my biggest learning's is that every day is a school day, and this will evolve over time. I continue to learn every single day!

People Make the Difference

As Jose Mourinho replied when asked about building a successful team, " you can't make an omelette without eggs"

Great people are the true differentiator in any successful business or team. As a leader, it is key you keep your eyes wide open and enable everybody to be the best possible version of 'them'.

Get to know all of the people around you, understand what they want to achieve and help them self-realise what they need to do to 'win'. Then you will see that people become motivated, they have clarity and they have belief, both in you and themselves. Success will follow if you believe in the 'possibility' of people.

Success will follow if you believe in the 'possibility' of people.
 Environment

 Would you go and socialise somewhere that made you unhappy?

 In fact, lets stretch this..

Would you socialise somewhere that didn't excite you, you don't find enjoyable, that you 'don't' want to go to?

Obviously the answer is no - yet many spend upwards of 8 hours a day in a workplace that they are at best ambivalent towards. As a leader, it is key we create an organic environment that it is enjoyable to be in, that fuels others passion to make a difference and gets people excited to come in to work and succeed.

Small acts regularly are always better than the occasional grand gesture. Breakfasts, lunches, walk and talks, sporting events, recognition. Even remembering to greet everyone every day and ask how they are, simple gestures that are often forgotten. Diverse teams will have diverse ideas around what's is enjoyable, so ensure everybody can be involved to foster ideas.

Furthermore, leaders set the tone. Each morning, we need to ensure we walk in and create magic for our teams.

Consistency

As Aristotle's quote tells us, 'excellence is not an act, but a habit, we are what we repeatedly do'.

Im a great believer that consistency is a key trait in great leaders. Those that change their position consistently confuses others and this damages morale.

We have to know what we stand for and be prepared to remember this in the face of challenges. Those that stand for everything, stand for nothing.

'excellence is not an act, but a habit, we are what we repeatedly do'.
Humility and Vulnerability

When things go wrong, weak leaders blame others - their predecessors, their team, their leaders. Everybody bar themselves. However if you're explaining, you're already behind.

Rather, we should be willing to show and share our vulnerability.

We all make mistakes and sharing these simply displays that we are human! Subsequently we need to highlight our desire to learn from these. It is a sign of strength, not weakness in asking for guidance and support. This tells your team that asking for help is more than just OK. It's often the right step.

The ability to display humility and our genuine vulnerability authenticates that we are after all 'human.'

Finally, when the teams wins, victory should be about your people. I still live by the motto to #makeyourpeoplefamous.

"Finally, when the teams wins, victory should be about your people. I still live by the motto to #makeyourpeoplefamous."
Never Give Up

Some days will be be tough. Things will not go the way we expected. However we need to be relentless in moving forward. Resilience really is one of the greatest traits a leader can possess.

When things go wrong, understand why, yet don't dwell on it. Instead focus on how you will ensure you wont make the same mistakes, or how you can learn from this. Own it. Never accept failure, never give up, and do this with a positive mindset

Integrity is Everything

Finally, be guided by your morals. When making tough decisions, ensure they align with your moral compass.

When you have tough conversations, have them with integrity and honesty. Never ignore these as this is fastest route to failure. This is particularly relevant with behaviours.You can give second chances on numbers, but not on values.

If you can look yourself in the mirror each evening, knowing that you've given it your all and you've done the right thing, there really is nothing more you can do.  The time is always right to do what is right.

"The time is always right to do what is right."

Muamar Gaddafi's Prophecies:

Muamar Gaddafi's Prophecies:"I will not go into exile to any foreign country. I was born here in Libya, and I will die here. This country was a dessert, and I turned it into a forest, where everything can grow.
No one Love this land more more than its citizens. If Europe and America tells you that they love you, be careful. They love the wealth of your land. The oil and not the people. They are helping you to fight against me but, it will be more wise for you to fight against them because they are fighting against your future and progress.
My message to you the people of Libya is, they are helping you to kill me but you will pay the price because you will suffer. And my message to you America and Europe is, you will kill me, but be ready to fight a never ending TERRORISM.
Before you realise your ignorance, terrorists will be hitting you at your doorstep."
GADDAFI once told the Nigerian and British governments to divide Ni
It's good we look at these 16 REAL REASONS WHY COL. GADDAFI WAS KILLED:
1. There is no electricity bill in Libya, electricity is free for all its citizens.
2. There is no interest on loans, banks in Libya are state-owned and loans given to all its citizens are at a 0% interest by law.
3. Home is considered a human right in Libya. Gaddafi vowed that his parents would not get a house until everyone in Libya had a
home.
4. All newlyweds in Libya receive $60,000 Dinars (US$50,000) from the government to buy their first apartment.
5. Education and medical treatments are free in Libya. Before Gaddafi, only 25% of Libyans were literates. Today, the figure stands at 83%.
6. Libyans taking up farming as a career, they received farm land, a farming house, equipment, seeds and livestock to kick- start their farms – all for free.
7. If Libyans cannot find the education or medical facilities they needed in Libya, the government funded them to go abroad for it.
8. In Gaddafi's Libya, if a Libyan buys a car, the government subsidized 50% of the price.
9. The price of petrol in Libya is $0. 14 per liter.
10. Libya has no external debt and its reserves amount to $150 billion – now frozen globally.
11. If a Libyan is unable to get employment after graduation, the state would pay the average salary of the profession as if he or she is employed until employment is found.
12. A portion of Libyan oil sale is credited directly to the bank accounts of all Libyan citizens.
13. A mother who gave birth to a child under Gaddafi, received US $5,000 as child benefit upfront.
14. 40 loaves of bread in Libya costs $ 0.15
15. 25% of Libyans have a university degree
16. Gaddafi carried out the world’s largest irrigation project, known as the Great Man- Made River Project, to make water readily available throughout the desert country.
If this is called "Dictatorship", I wonder what type of Leadership Democrats have!!
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HOW TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Relationship can be either healthy or unhealthy , we all are bounded in it , we all need relationship to have a healthy society .
There is so much need that we understand how to keep our relationship healthy
Health is wealth, when one is healthy he or she stands a better chance to doing well in life
 This are 5 tips on how to maintain a good relationship .
1, Be truthfull  and sincere
This is the most important part of every human life even God in heaven value this so much as responsible people we are expected d to be truthfull
For two or more people to be successful they must be sincere to each other truth is very important. It strengthened  the bond and keep it lifely .
2, Have a perfect understanding of your partner
When you have a good understanding of each other there won't be room for misunderstanding or argument  , to understand something is to learn about it first , humans are full of character , attitude , and choices
Having a healthy relationship require us learning about each other .
3, Avoid unnecessary aguement
Argument  is the only means in which people prove their good ability and bad once too it is a means where we have to say whatever we can to convince each other . sometimes it often result to quarell .
4,Advice with caution
It is very good to be good to friend and partner mostly in the face of challenging situation, one is expected to advice and caution his friend and partner , our advice at this time is vital but it is something we must take very careful and be wise when choosing words during this advice , remember at the end you will be either praise or bullied .
5,Avoid envy and jealousy
Avoiding this two will give you a good feeling about yourself and confident when your together to be able to discuss about each others choices , the devil uses this two as a tolls when planning to destroy any home it is not godly to be envious or jealous about anything
God has given to us our own best so be satisfy with what you have and be happy for your partners own too .
Note
Always be open and clear to each other .
Respect and believe in each other .

7 steps on how to start a business and succeed

1. Determine your offering and market demand - Entrepreneurship is not about hitting a home run; trying to create the next "big thing" has a very poor risk / return rate.

Instead of long shot, pick a job. Think, what do you want to do for a career? Determine what you want to sell based on what you're passionate about rather than what you think will make money.

If you love what you do, you'll find ways to monetize it. Conversely, if you chase money, you'll end up unhappy and worn-out.

2. Determine your pricing - If you're a newcomer, don't be afraid to price yourself under market. You could always raise your pricing in the future, but when you're "green" you're a risk to a client so give them some motivation to use your services.

The most profitable businesses that exist today (Walmart, Costco, Amazon) all compete on price while maintaining quality. When I started recruiting, I would severely uncut other staffing companies.

At first, worry about living expenses and getting through the first few months and obtaining those initial clients. Once you get some work under your belt, become more concerned with how much you can charge.
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3. Determine how long it is going to take to make your 1st sale - If it is going to take 6 months to initiate a sale, have a year's worth of income to live off of.

When it comes to budgeting, always play it cautious as shortage of money and chasing after unrealistic goals will lead to significant stress which hurts performance.

4. Determine your differentiators -Besides price, how does your product or service differ from competitors? The nice thing is in a service based business, if you learn how to sell and become an expert at what you do, you can be the differentiator.

I've come to realize that in any service based business, self-aI've come to realize that in any service based business, self-assurance and trusting one's intuition is a differentiator in of itself.

In time, you'll learn what aspects of the product or service are important and secondary to the client. Until then, think price and quality.

5. Determine marketing - (figure out how to get leads) Make it simple and put up a website. Read about PPC and SEO.

If you're selling business to business services, social media will help your search engine efforts, however you're not going to be directly making money off of it.

There are some great blogs to get you started on the topic6. Learn how to sell - The best salesmen / saleswomen don't sell. Instead, selling can be broken down into two different parts:

a. Listening - Too often, sales professionals think about what they are going to say next rather than focus on what the other individual is saying. I've come to learn that keeping your mouth shut and ears open is about 70% of sales.

b. Knowing what you're talking about - Running a recruiting firm, I've learned the difference between the average and wealthy sales professional or entrepreneur is that they can create realistic expectations for the client through gaining the client's trust via your expertise.

The entrepreneurs who "Yes" to death end up letting their clients' expectations get out of whack and, in turn create a relationship where only arguments, not money exchanges hands.

7. Learn how to execute the steps needed to take project to completion - Finally, put a set, organized process in place to take the service or product from start to finish in a predictable manner that yields the desired results. Think: Step A, Step B, etc

Determination is the power of creativity ((video lesson 1))

                         When one is full of determination the ability to create come in play                                          we can do almost anything when we make good and creative decision

How to get to your next level in anything

Do you want to get to that next level of whatever it is you are doing? Attitude alone can take you to that next level. In sales, your product can be shopped. Maybe not your exact product, but something similar. A great attitude can’t be shopped. Price can be beaten, but a great attitude is priceless.
If I scream and threaten another person, what would you expect them to do? They’ll flee or fight. If I’m positive and agreeable, sooner or later it will start to melt away another’s negativity. This is because a positive attitude is contagious. The ability to stay positive despite negativity around you requires mental muscle. “Great”, “super”, “excellent”, “love it”, “no problem”, “I’d be happy” -- these are the phrases you need to get to that next level, both in sales and life.
Here are three things to remember about a great attitude:
1. A great attitude is worth more than a great product.
People will pay more for an agreeable, positive, great experience than they will for a great product. Show me someone who doesn’t want to feel good, and I’ll show you a person you don’t even want to bother selling. People want to feel good. There will always be a market for products that make people feel good. A person who can make someone else feel good can sell almost anything. An individual who can combine a great product with a great attitude becomes unstoppable.
A positive attitude is more important than the product you are selling. People spend a small amount of their paycheck on the necessities of life and blow the rest on entertainment. Why? They want to feel good. Why does Jimmy Fallon make more than all the school teachers in LA? Because he makes people feel good. People want to be entertained. It’s easy for a buyer -- your prospect -- to say "no" to a product, but difficult to say "no" to a positive experience with another human. When something feels good, you want more of it. Money flows out of my pocket when I feel good.
Instant gratification things like food, drugs, alcohol and gambling will always sell because people will pay to feel good for a moment. People will spend money on things that make them feel good before buying things that satisfy their needs. It explains debt levels and why people spend more on entertainment than on education. The media pounds negativity into people every day. Do you know how refreshing it is to meet someone positive and solution oriented? Someone smiling, laughing, not getting too intense and taking things personal? It’s refreshing. You have to know your product and take massive action, but if you’re taking massive action with a bad attitude, all you’re going to do is make a wreck of the marketplace. Be positive at all times and you will come out a winner. Attitude is senior to everything.
2. Treat people like millionaires.
Would you like to be a millionaire? Its all about attitude. You need to start treating your customers like millionaires. Treat them like they have money and they’ll spend money they don’t have. The decision-maker or not the decision-maker, treat them like a millionaire. Treat them like a millionaire whether they 15-years-old or 50-years-old.
People act the way you treat them. Imagine you have a customer who is broke and out of work, who can’t get financing. How should you treat him? Treat him like a millionaire. He just filed bankruptcy but one day he’ll be back on his feet. If they don’t have it now, they’ll spend it with you when they do have it.
When I just got out of college I was selling cars. This customer walked in to buy a truck and pretty much told me he didn’t want to pay anything over invoice. That doesn’t make sense. If we sold everything at cost we’d make no money and couldn’t service customers. But it made sense to him, so I agreed with him. I knew that attitude is more important than product or price. I believed I could change his mind in the close. I treated him like he had a million dollars. Treat them good and they will act good. He bought from me, and he spent more than he expected to spend that day.

3. You are a product of your environment.
You are what you surround yourself with. This includes people, beliefs, TV, magazines, friends, movies, hobbies, interests, family. Everything you are involved with influences your environment. The condition of your mind influences you. The media gets you thinking about things you otherwise wouldn’t think about. You need to protect your attitude. Take preventative steps against things that will bring you down. Attitudes, good and bad, are contagious. You’ve got to learn how to control your attitude, stay positive and change the attitudes of others!
Here are some tips to have a great attitude and take your life to the next level:
1. Avoid newspapers, TV and radio.
2. Stay away from “can’t do” people.
3.Get everyone in your life on the same page with where you are going.
4. Avoid drugs and alcohol.
5. Stay away from hospitals and doctors.
6. No negative talk.
7. Start a negativity diet.
If you’re not getting paid what you want, and you know you’re doing what you need to do, attitude is probably a part of the problem. If you want a bigger paycheck get a bigger attitude, a bigger smile, bigger happiness, and bigger positive responses. Thoughts proceed actions, and your actions control your life. Get your attitude right, and come to 10X GrowthCon and let's get you to that next level.

HOW TO HARNESS YOUR HABITS

HOW TO HARNESS YOUR HABITS  .
Are there good habit  that you will like to build in your life 
Perharp your goals is to exercise regularly , 
to get more sleep or to keep closer touch with  love ones .
On the other hand maybe you will like to a bad habit , such as Smoking cigerate  Eating too much junks food Drinking  too much . Etc 
Admittedly it can be difficult to overcome a bad habit 
In fact , it has been said that a bad habit is like a warm bed 
On a cold day : it is easy to get into and hard to get out of 
So how can you harness your habit and make them work for you 
Instead of against you ? Consider the following suggestion.
BE REALISTIC 
Trying to reach all your goals at the same time is a
 sure way to reach none of them  Way out Work on your habit in realistic increment .
1, Create two master list - a list of good habit good habit that you will like to build and a list of any bad habit that you will like to get rid of 
On each list write down as many  as you can tthink of 
2, Prioritize the items on your list ,
numbering them in the other of importance to you .
3, Choose a few habit - even just one or two from each list 
And focus on those .
Them move on to the next one air two habit in each of your lists .

Speed up the process by replacing a bad habit with a good one . 
MANAGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT .
 The situation we put ourselves in and the people we spend time with -  influences our success in building a good habit band breaking away from bad once 
Way out 
1, Make it hard to do wrong things .
Keep yourself away from the environment that will encourage bad , and position yourself with the positive once , that way when temptation strike giving in will require more effort than not giving in .
2, make it easier to do the right things 
the easier it is to get started the more likely you are to follow through 
3, Choose your friends carefully we tend to become like the people we spend time with 
So limit contact with people who encourage habit that you are trying to break away from 
And seek out those who can reinforce good habit .
 3, Do not conclude that relapse is a permanent failure , Expect to face some setbacks  as you work towards your goals 
Focus on time when things went right , what did I do instead ? 
How can I repeat that ? Such question can help you to reinforce your success rather than dwell on your set back .
Final Note 
What count in the end is not how many rimes you fall but how many times you get up again .Chris Awoga 
Life Coach .